Talking About It

Talking About It is a space by and for white people, in partnership with people of all backgrounds, to tell their stories with the aim of owning and transforming oppression from within. It creates spaces to explore the many stories, including the privileges and challenges, of being white in the 21^st century.

Through this program Nicole le Roux is telling her story and making a space to own all of the parts of herself, including her role in oppression. She is sharing it with people who want to hear it, and creating spaces where more people can begin to transform their silences by “Talking About It”.

Having lived in both countries, Nicole has experienced silence in similar and different ways in America and in South Africa. Talking About It will be officially launched in the USA this November but the conversations will happen online and in workshop spaces in both countries. 

In her second post put up today, Nicole asks:
Do we think that, if people knew the hard things about us they would no longer remember the good? Or is it that when we look at the hard things in ourselves, we forget to look at the good?

Visit the blog to read more. 

Peninsula Hotel Mentorship Programme

 On Thursday July 7, we completed our nine-month mentorship programme at the Peninsula All Suite Hotel in Sea Point, with seven of their staff. We were so moved on the final day when the participants reflected on how far they had come and how much they had grown during our nine months working with them.

The aim of the programme was to help participants to reclaim power in their lives through identifying what they wanted in their working and personal lives. Through monthly group and individual sessions, we worked with goal setting, communication skills and trust building. 

There were very challenging moments during these nine months where participants really looked at their relationships with themselves and one another.  We were amazed at how they took on what we shared with them and made it their own.

The group sessions focused on developing listening skills, looking at assumptions, how to respond versus react, working with triggers and building trust. It was amazing to watch the group as they grew over the nine months. By working with their own assumptions, they became more open and understanding towards their colleagues, family and friends. The group particularly drew a lot from the session on learning about responding and reacting. Almost all of the members came back the following month and related a story of how they chose to handle conflict differently. In choosing to respond and to actually listen to the other person, they found they felt more power in situations of conflict. By taking a step back instead of simply reacting, one participant was able to hear the other person’s side of the story. As a result he developed a relationship with one of his colleagues, with whom he did not get along with before.

The programme also supported the participants when they came up against challenges in achieving their goals. By identifying why something was a challenge and then how to deal with it, participants were able to find solutions to their own problems and develop tools within themselves to face challenges on their own.

Self-confidence and the ability to speak and be heard were two of the things that participants said they gained. 

One participant began the programme off with many goals for other people. This she must do because her mother wants her to, this she must do because it is the right thing to do, etc. We asked her a difficult question - Can you do something for you every day? - and we challenged her to think about why she doesn't have any goals for herself. Of course she never completed all of the goals she had made for everyone else, but as the months went on she began to explore who she was. Through hair styles and religion, relationships and work, she explored and stood up for herself. She started to use her silence as a tool, choosing to speak and creating clear boundaries. She literally glowed, and went from coming to work late and being completely unmotivated to getting a phenomenal job offer. This young woman inspired us with the way she took her own life into her hands and decided she deserved happiness.

Two participants, who were partnered together in our individual/partner sessions, became mirrors of growth for each other. One of the participants initially struggled to be open with people at work, and by the end of the nine months she and her partner swore they could tell each other anything and that they were helping each other become who they want to be. Toni and I watched them form the kind of bond we have with each other, where we can say the hard things and be there to celebrate the good.

Another participant regained a sense of personal power in his life, through working with choice. He saw how in each situation – whether good or bad – he has a choice. He didn't initially feel that listening is important, and he talked about power as something over other people. But by becoming aware of his choices, he developed a different relationship to the power within him and how he can use that power. By the last session, he was naming one of his qualities as caring about other people. He was able to see that he does in fact know what he needs and how to take care of his needs. His goals shifted from being general and small to involving major steps in his job and relationships. He took ownership of his goals and was certain that there would be a way of achieving them. 

Each person in the group feels that they have a stronger sense of self as a result of the programme. They all feel more energised and motivated to work towards their goals and have the support now to do so.

*Thank you to General Manager, Chris Godenir for inviting us to work with his staff. It was a wonderful experience working with you all.

Exchange in action!

After arriving at the Driftsands Cape Nature Reserve at 8am on Youth Day this Thursday morning, Toni Stuart said to me, "I've always worked public holidays, but for once I got up this morning and thought - everything I am doing today I really love!" We had a good laugh about being allowed to paint on a wall as part of our job... But what we did paint holds so much meaning to us and to people who read it.


With the help of participants, we painted the name of our organisation, a phrase which says a lot in and of itself, "I Am Somebody!" followed with a concept of our work, "in relationship to the environment."  Every person who walks into this room is going to see and think about the fact that they are somebody. Proof of the impact of this phrase, Cape Nature facilitators spoke to the eighty participants at their event about how they matter and what they want to do with their lives is important. It has been so moving to hear how people resonate personally, and create meaning from the name of our organisation.

After many partnership meetings, it was inspiring to see the first immediate impact of our exchange with Cape Nature. A group of about thirty young adults joined us out of the larger event to make their mark on the wall. They partnered up and traced one another's hands before painting the outline in their favorite colour.


Then, they answered three questions using metaphor:
1. What do you love about yourself?
2. What do you love about the environment?
3. What do you want to learn more about the environment?

We normally encourage participants to let go of outcome when they paint a hand map, but these young adults, male and female, were intent on making their mark on the wall beautiful. Instead of being worried about how it would look, they were proud of what they were making. Many of them took pictures of one another in front of their hand maps with their cell phones.

Once the wall had been painted on, a few of the seniors who were enjoying the larger event asked that we add a few things they wanted to see, such as drawings of the chickens and horses that the reserve had on their property. A member of a church in Mitchell's Plain asked if we were open to working with them as well because they had spaces in their buildings that they wanted to create on. 





Thank you to Driftsands Reserve for the amazing event they organized and for their partnership with our organisation. Thank you also to the participants for their insight and creativity. It was a great day!

This post was written by Nicole le Roux, co-director of I Am Somebody!

Dedication of Recruitment Programme to Charles and Christina Bascom

We are dedicating the first recruitment for our Mentorship Programme to Charles and Christina Bascom for their invaluable donations to the organisation and the communities it serves. Their support for our work, during the early stages of our organisation, enabled us to grow and begin to roll out our programmes.

We are dedicating the first recruitment for our Mentorship Programme to Charles and Christina Bascom for their invaluable financial investment in the organisation and the communities it serves.

The mentorship programme’s goal is to facilitate a rite of passage process that empowers youth to become adults with balanced relationships with themselves, their community and the earth. The programme is supported by community leaders, businesses, mentors in training and our Partner Exchange Web of organizations in the sectors of: Environment, Creativity, Reconciliation and Public Health.

The recruitment process is a three-day workshop followed by an application and interview process. Youth are drawn from different cultures, religions, sexual orientations, and classes through 6 community partner organizations.

A total of 120 youth, or 20 in each community, are reached. The workshop involves life storytelling, environmental education and dialogue. Of the 120 youth, 20 are selected for our programme while the remainder may also be recruited for various programmes offered by our partner organisations.

During the programme there is a 2-day entering process, bi-monthly half-day meetings, four five-day camps and 3 full-day dialogue sessions. The program has three phases: relationship to self, relationship to others and relationship to the environment. Participants have creative projects throughout the two years and each participant also plants and maintains a vegetable garden. Further, participants exit the program with relationships to mentors who will continue to support them in creating their life vision. The participants also become mentors to the new intake into the program and other youth in their community.

Hero Book Workshop!

The Hero Book is an art and narrative group therapy workshop in which participants rewrite the story of their own lives with themselves as a hero.

It is profound in its simplicity and uses a combination of methods - e.g. drawing and colour, talking and writing, movement and reflection.

The process is 24 hours (8 sessions of 3 hours each) with facilitators counsellor Batya Daitz and complementary therapist Suzanne Leighton.

R1500 - 8 Wednesday evenings from 4 May to 22 June at Michael Oak School, Marlow Rd, Kenilworth

Booking: Suzanne Leighton  021 794 2738,   084 293 3214,   suzl@mweb.co.za

More Info:            http://sa.livingnetwork.co.za/hero-book

Programme Overview

Can you imagine a world of people who know that they matter? Can you imagine how differently people would treat one another, be to them selves, and take care of our earth? Through our programmes, we are restoring the connections people have with themselves, their communities and the earth. We use the ancient tool of storytelling to mark the stages of life so that people can make conscious choices about how they want to be youth, adults and elders. Through stories, we are bringing people together from different classes and cultures to support one another in living their life visions. 

In South Africa:

Mentorship Program - 24 months

The mentorship program’s goal is to facilitate a rite of passage process that empowers youth to become adults with balanced relationships with themselves, their community, and the earth. The program is supported by community partners, the mentors in training, and four partner networks of large and small organizations: Environment, Creativity, Reconciliation and Public Health.

The 20 youth (aged 18-25) are selected through a 2-part recruitment phase: a 3-day workshop followed by an application and interview process. During the program, there are bi-monthly half- day meetings, four five-day camps, 3 full-day dialogue sessions, and a 2-day entering process. Youth are drawn from different cultures, religions, sexual orientations, and classes through 6 community partner organizations.

The program has three phases: relationship to self, relationship to others and relationship to the environment. Participants have creative projects throughout the two years and each participant also plants and maintains a vegetable garden. Further, participants exit the program with relationships to mentors who will continue to support them in creating their life vision. The participants also become mentors to the new intake into the program and other youth in their community.

Mentor Training - 18 months 

The goal of the mentor training is to equip community leaders (aged 25+) with the skills and personal development to mentor young adults. The training runs parallel to the mentorship program. After undergoing their own rite of passage, mentors are introduced to the youth and begin to support one individual. The program helps mentors realize how they best support people through reflection on their own lives and relationships. It provides them with the skills training and self-care strategies needed to be an effective mentor.

Mentor Network: 

Our mentorship network is made up of people who sign up to become mentors and offer active support to youth. Most mentors come from our training program and from three-day workshops. We also draw our mentors from five partnership networks that we run. The networks include twenty leading organizations in the fields of health, creativity, reconciliation, community, and environment.  Through these partnerships we are helping organisations learn how to exchange tools, skills and resources to create sustainable change.

Training & Workshop Services

The goal of the training and workshop services is to provide training for organizations, corporates, government and individuals in the use of life and archetypal storytelling.

We offer pre-designed, in house workshops in:

- Debriefing Strategies & Stress Management

- Communication & Team Building

- Leadership & Personal Development 

We offer custom designed workshops in Network Training & Access; Mentorship;  Media & Storytelling; Mediation & Reconciliation.

In America:

Storytelling Performance:  

Through an interactive storytelling performance, individuals experience the powerful lessons South African’s learned during apartheid. Participants simultaneously explore their own relationship to compassion for themselves and the power of their voice.

Transforming Privilege Workshops Series:  

This eight-day workshop series creates a space for white middle and upper middle class Americans to explore their relationship to privilege.  Using storytelling techniques, participants are guided through a personal storytelling experience.

Inter-group Dialogue: 

People from different cultures and classes are brought together to share their life experiences and to learn from the other groups experiences. Dialogues are co-facilitated by members of both identity groups present.

Mentorship Training:  

Through partnerships with Universities and organizations we develop relationships of cultural exchange between American and South African youth. We also share our mentorship and storytelling tools to support programs running in America.

I Am Somebody! goes to Cradock with My Arms Wide Open

August has been a month of much excitement for us. We had our first official job and we are in the process of establising partnerships with a corporate company in Cape Town to work with their staff and a school in the city centre to work with their learners and teachers.
From Monday August 9 to Friday August 20, I Am Somebody! was in Cradock, working in partnership with My Arms Wide Open. The My Arms Wide Open Foundation's purpose is to work with Mothers, Children and Young Adults to enable them to break the chain and cycle of their parents past prejudice, to create community and preserve their culture while learning to think and make decision for themselves.
We spent one week working with 18 people to start that process. Click to read more about Day 1 in Cradock.
For us, Cradock was a humbling experience. We were touched by everyone's openness, willingness and their honesty to participate in what we were doing. People relished the chance to paint their River of Life, and then share their lif stories with the group. We were reminded of just how powerful telling your own story in order to own it, really is. We watched people's faces open up as the week progressed, we watched their voices grow louder and clear as they grew proud of who they are. But more than this, we were touched by the human capacity to love and to go on despite life's struggles. This is what realising that we are all somebody is all about.